Todd was born May 25,1964. He was our only son and oldest child of four
Todd never met a stranger, he was always ready to help anyone in need.
There is a special bond between parent and child. This bond creates an
"unconditional love". I share this bond with all my children.
With Todd there was even a more connection bond. If I were sick, Todd
it. If Todd was sick, I knew it.
Todd was murdered on October 13,1996.
This was the most tragic and terrible day in our lives!
Todd's murder remains unsolved, but is still under investigation by a
dedicated Homicide Unit.
In the last thirteen years we have gone through a lot of
I have really learned a lot about grief in reading and through the
In grief you go through many stages.
You should not try to busy yourself to the point that you do not grieve
You're asking "What is the Proper way to grieve"?
There is no proper way, it is a physical and emotional track you will
Grief is the hardest work you will ever do!
It drains you of physical, emotional and spiritual stamina.
Unless you pace yourself and direct your energies toward your grief
you will experience physical illness, emotional despair, relational
detachments as well as possibly bitterness.
You must allow time to grieve. Allow time to let your body and mind
"Lean into the pain, face the grief head on because the grief will be
long after the pace has slowed.
Grieve with Hope, Not Despair!! Matthew 5:4, Psalm 23, Psalm 30:5
My faith in God has given me Hope, not Despair!!! God and my faith have
shelter in a storm beyond all storms!!
There is a hole inside of me that never gets filled, this is grief!!
There is a place in my heart that always yearns for Todd, this is
There has been so much time since I hugged my son or was able to say "I
you"! But there is Hope!!!
I think of the things we will never do together. But there is the love
shared, the memories I will forever cherish!!
There is HOPE!!!
If someone you know has lost a child, remember to be there in silence
give them love.
Some of the hardest days I had were the not talking about Todd people
if they say nothing, all will be better. But this is not true.
child to keep his memory alive!!! The more I talk and think of Todd, the
I am to him!!
Someday when all the earth has passed and My life here is over, I will
see my Sweet Loving Son!!!